One of the major question during our teenage years and early adult life is: Which of our friends are real? How long are they gonna stay with us for? Often we cannot differentiate between one who is genuinely interested in helping us and the one who pretends to be nice to our faces but as soon as we turn our backs, they start talking shit about us with other people.
Honestly, everybody just wants someone to understand them and their actions. Friends are not only meant to have fun with but also to be their support systems. People who would not leave them alone or altogether in times of misunderstandings. People who would take a stand for them. Because ‘Friends’ are supposed to be those people who know what’s wrong with you, make fun of you regarding those issues and still be there for you after accepting your flaws.
What is really sad and heartbreaking is that, that friend who was always there for you, someone with whom you made a lot of memories, someone who knows everything about you: from your ex-boyfriends to your weird fetish, decides to suddenly disappear from your life without any explanation. You cannot get them to revert to any of your greetings or texts. You are abandoned standing in the middle of your happy days and miserable days, shocked, with just one persistent question in your head: you too? And suddenly it dawns upon you what caeser meant when he says “ET TU, BRUTE?”
Often you notice the signs which reveal that things are going wrong but choose to ignore it because you trust your friends. Or realize it only after everything’s over, a bit too late. First thing you can do to save yourself from this embarrasing situation is talk it out, sort things out with your friends as soon as possible. And learn to believe in intuitions because evidently, intuitions are always right. Second thing you should always do is take time to trust someone. Then, third and most important thing is always consider how they make you feel. Don’t settle for anyone. Know that you deserve the best out there and aim for that.