‘Mirror mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?’
This is something every girl asks often when alone. But, no. This isn’t the kind of situation only girls face but boys too. Finding faults with themselves and believing people who body-shame them. Their insecurities take up better part of them. And constant bullying renders them victim to self-doubt in a pool of tears. Unable to fit the mould of physical beauty set by society and social media, they loose belief in oneself, lack confidence and forget to accept and love themselves.
Don’t hate yourself for not being the way you are. What anyone says about you or on whatever basis they judge won’t make your accomplishments any less. Firstly, get rid of the negative feelings. Right when you notice your self reaching the pessimistic thoughts, reject them. Stay away from the people who body shame you or bully you. Acknowledge your achievements when you feel worthless. Love yourself as you would love someone else. As you’d want someone to love you. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are unique and significant and nobody can pull off you better than yourself. Own it. Because you deserve the best of everything. Be with people who make you feel good about yourselves and happy. Easier said than done. Don’t worry, just pretend your way to reality. And someday this all will be easily possible. Amidst all this, forgive yourself for mistakes you commit but the biggest mistake you could make would be being bullied.
If you are being bullied regularly, please tell someone. You don’t have to handle it alone. Confide in a friend, a parent, a sibling or any elder for that matter. And don’t let yourself be a victim for you don’t have to fill in a set of predetermined factors defining beauty. It will stop and definitely not make you a weakling. It is not right bullying someone and it is downright inappropriate being bullied. Let’s put a stop to bullying and body-shaming in any form.